
Category: Kentucky
Ha!! Me, too…
two decades ago i took
an overdue trip to Central Ohio
introducing my former mother-in-law to her six month old twin grandsons
we got to talking about Kentucky
as all transplanted Kentuckians do
we bounced gurgling baby innocence on our respective maternal knees having our own little gossip social
curling wispy baby hairs in her worn fingers
her laughter turned to pained breaths
as she shuttered out
a mortifying truth
about a bluegrass upbringing
she was discussing how she had been repeatedly raped as a girl by her father in Hyden, Kentucky
ran away to something worse at 14
how her first marriage ended when she found her alcoholic unemploymed coal miner husband was molesting her two little girls while she was waitressing to support the jerk
fleeing north to Ohio with them
to single motherdom with three kids in the 1960s living in a car until she could afford a place to rent
tears streamed down
her withered cheeks
as she said
“A girl child isn’t safe growing up around a family of men in the South.”
20 years later i think of her words and the women in my biological family
four generations of women who tried to protect their genitalia from one family member
the irony of being expected to smile and pretend
give forgiving hugs
that i’m the one who doesn’t feel comfortable coming to the Thanksgiving table
not the man who couldn’t keep his hands to himself
of thee I sing
the true measure
of a civilized society
are the rumors
told by its ghosts
every night you were away
i sought you out
through blackberry bramble ether
from weeping constellations above dixmyth avenue
to jessamine county barns filled with horse hay
perpetually wrapping blue ribbon around my finger
whispering vespers
my plea to the particles of the universe
to hold you together
to bring you back from oblivion
as you had done for me
you are my chosen family
inextricably part
of my thunderous heart
to which you will always hold the latchkey
Memaw,
I have dreamed about you
every night this week.
I would like to think you are visiting me
from the great beyond.
We’re in your house and
I can hear your voice,
I can smell your skin,
I can hear you laugh,
I can hear you sigh.
I can watch you smooth the table cloth
down with your hands
and wash the kitchen counter.
We watch Gone With the Wind together,
then have tea.
We look through an old Sears catalog,
we sort your quilt pieces,
we string buttons.
After we visit the Halls Gap Overlook,
we end the night at The Dairy Freeze.
I love you immeasurably.
The older I get,
the more I miss you.
Your absence is enough
to fill the world,
Mabel Spaw Bates.
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Rest In Peace
when i was a little girl
allowed to roam
through the backrooms of
the house shared by my great aunts
ancient
spinster sisters
jo ann and mary alys
whose Bates brothers all passed before
i didn’t mind the obligatory visits
imposed by my mother and sister so much
.
finding photographs of glory faded
antique wash basins and ceramic kittens
delicate baubles in satin boxes
fine dresses who had given up on finding love
bobby pins on china saucers atop
a vanity avoided because no one wanted to see
what it had to show
.
until i was five i thought jo ann
was a man
an old farmer in mens clothes
who smoked constantly
cut her hair short
and squatted like our indian ancestors
talking of her land
loyals dogs
sturdy tractors
whose barn had burned
tidbits you orta know
a lesbian of a time one didn’t acknowledge
such things
baptist blasphemy running through
her country bones
.
mary alys
the once beautiful bride
whose wealthy husband cecil had died
leaving her childless
grieving
though she seemed content
to remain married to his ghost
so feminine she was
pin curls
perfectly filed long
nicotine yellow nails
too many rings
a forked tongued
wicked gossip
oral histories
slim pointy nose
judging everyone whilst wearing
pink polyester and
knee high panty hose
.
two women were never more different
yet to me
they were symbiotic halves
of a singular tale of family woe
.
jo ann on her side of the sitting room
reading the paper
and mary alys
applying ponds cold cream to her face
and lotion to her transparent
blue veined soft hands
claiming she intended to make
a pretty corpse
.
jo ann went first
ate up with cancer
mary alys died later
of meaness
i suppose
“Every mile is two in winter.” – George Herbert
January
has a way…
of making atheists
of Englishmen,
country folk,
and poets.
It’s as though
they have forgotten
their prayers
and the inevitability
of cherry blossoms.
50 year plan
keep my mother proud of me
give my sons braggin’ rights
love in their hearts
and wisdom in their minds
be the reason my father’s sooty
fallen angel wings
spread wide
closer to the throne of god
when i do something right
perform a poem
at the inauguration
of the first female president
allow my deeds to accomodate
sleeping well at night
you know
it is true what they say
your entire life really does
flash before your eyes
the moment before a motor vehicle accident
my film reel cigarette burned
car crash footage
went precisely like this:
i saw my twin sons locked out of the house
in 18 degree weather
upon returning from school
to find their mother nowhere around & unalive
…this day and for the rest of time
i saw my mother’s face
and thought how i wanted
to touch her downy warm cheek
one more time
i thought about my brother bob
and how i would not live to see him write
the great american novel
i saw the face of the man whom i am in love with
i thought about how happy i would be to see daddy
at the dinner table in heaven tonight
i saw my friends sarah, marissa, and sean
toasting to my existence
i thought about how grateful i am
to have been given this amazing life
thank you, god, whomever you are
alas
it is i who shall cover you
with a blanket of stars
this night